What is Trauma Informed Coaching?
Space and time to express what you would like to have happen; as you express that we might encounter things that get in the way, like your inner critic, or shame, or triggers, or any of the other things that come with trauma and stop you from expressing yourself in the ways you’d like. We can explore these things together non-judgmentally and I can share information and resources with you, if that is appropriate and you want me to.
The subject matter is for you to decide and we’ll start each session with me asking you, “what would you like to have happen in this session?” It is okay to not know the answer to this question and not knowing can form the basis for our exploration as much as having a predetermined subject. I will then repeat back some of your answer in your exact words and base my next question on what you have said. In this way, the coaching is as non-directive as possible, and the content is your choice. I might invite you to draw or write your goal and to amend it during the session, or to move around to gain knowledge from different perspectives. You do not have to do anything I invite you to do.
Before your first session I’ll send you some forms and a contract. This contract forms the boundaries for our relationship and we can refer back to it if we need to change something after discussion. The contract will state things like how long a session is, how many sessions we’ll commit to, what we expect from each other, among other things, and we can discuss and decide these things together before I put them in the contract. The forms give me information on your current health and well-being, as well as basic stuff like contact details. I will not share this information with anyone else and will keep it in a password-protected folder.
Whilst coaching may feel therapeutic, it is not therapy and I am not qualified to offer therapy. If you have recently been in crisis, coaching may not be appropriate for you. Even if you haven’t been in crisis recently, you might like to consider working with a therapist alongside coaching because coaching can tap into deep-seated thoughts, feelings and emotions that might need to be held by and explored with a therapist. Coaching doesn’t rely on transference and counter-transference like some psychotherapy does; coaching is about us partnering to accept you as you are, trauma and all, and move forward. My style of coaching is person-centred, which means you are always ‘in-charge’.
The number of sessions required to reach your outcome(s) is different for everyone. Coaching can be a short-term investment to ‘get the ball rolling’ or it can be a longer journey. It depends on what kind of support you would like. I suggest trying three sessions, with a review during the third session, so you can see, over time, how the process is working for you, and whether you would like to continue.
You might like to speak to me to find out what I’m like, and whether you think you might like to work with me. Feel free to contact me for a brief chat, with no obligation to commit to coaching sessions. You don’t need to make up your mind immediately. I won’t be offended if you decide it’s not for you. Any contact you have with me will be kept confidential, unless what you tell me highlights a safeguarding issue.
I am a survivor of sexual violence and in my own recovery journey I’m not sure I could point my finger at any one therapy or activity that helped me more than others; I think a combination of them have created a cumulative effect. I’ve had coaching, counselling, psychotherapy, art therapy, group therapy, and trauma sensitive yoga. I’ve attended drop ins, art groups, and joined women’s groups not intended for therapy (but were therapeutic). I’ve read loads of books and attended trainings on trauma and recovery to educate myself on what my body does in a trauma situation and how it’s possible to recover from PTSD and Complex PTSD. I’ve learnt what makes up self-care for me and how important it is to practice self-care. The more I learn about myself and my needs, and give myself what I need, the better I feel about myself, which has a good effect on my relationships with others. I have a natural empathy for trauma survivors because of my own experience. You can read more about me here.
I work from my home in Brighton; we can hold our sessions either face to face or over the phone or VOIP (Voice Over Internet Protocol, like Skype). Other face to face options are to walk and talk – for example, Stanmer Park is a great place to do walking coaching – or I could visit you in your home (there will be an extra charge of £20 to cover travel time and expense for a home visit within a 5 mile radius of central Brighton). I am fully insured and have regular supervision. If you have questions, or would like a PDF of my coaching packages, feel free to contact me.