I draw on my breath and the overflowing love that constantly pumps through my heart – healing me, loving me unconditionally, giving me energy in surprising ways.
Words are magic spells.
The Power of Self talk
What we say to ourselves matters.
When I keep talking about struggling (as I’ve caught myself doing lately), I inevitably struggle more. But when I reframe what feels like a ‘struggle’ as a challenge – and remember I have endless inner resources of love, imagination and intuition – it suddenly becomes easier to meet what life brings.
The question is, how do we remember this shift in perception when looking through eyes that judge constantly?
Sometimes I forget, and it takes a comment from a friend to wake me up. Often, that awakening unfolds slowly – over days rather than in minutes. Astrologically, my Moon in Scorpio makes me naturally moody. That moodiness carried extra shame because, as a child, it was often met with eye rolls and sharp remarks rather than understanding. It’s no wonder the moods darkened under judgement. Most parents, of course, can’t offer unconditional love all the time – it’s too much to ask of humans who also carry their own wounds.
Speaking Kindly to Ourselves
Regardless of our early conditioning, how we talk to and about ourselves now has immense power. It can illuminate whether we’re listening to the voices of inner critics, or speaking from a place of self-acceptance.
When the inner critics dominate, we might feel small, frozen, or restless, or hyper critical of others (I describe these various inner saboteurs in my book, SHINE). When we speak from self-acceptance – the sage within – we feel expansive, curious, playful, creative, and light.
There was a time I suddenly realised that my inner critic wasn’t me. I was shocked – I had believed I was the torrent of nastiness it spewed. So I tried an idea I’d once rolled my eyes at: every time my inner critic started in, I added, “And that’s okay”.
That tiny phrase softened our relationship. It made space for compassion and began the long healing work of connecting with my Self – my inner Sage, Soul, or whatever name you prefer for that loving, intuitive, creative part of being.
The Season of Activation
What we say to ourselves during stressful times matters most. Take Christmas, for instance. It’s portrayed as a time of family connection and joy – but for many, it reactivates old wounds. The same people who helped shape our inner saboteurs may be the ones we face across the table.
When those ancient patterns arise, we might withdraw, become snarky, or busy ourselves endlessly instead of asking for real connection, which can feel so vulnerable.
At such times, inner words can heal or harm. Harsh self-talk adds pain. Gentle, compassionate language can soothe us back into presence. This is just as true if you’re spending the holidays alone and feeling lonely.
Casting Healing Spells
Words are spells.
So here are a few blessings from my heart to yours:
I wish you love.
I wish you fun.
I wish you creativity.
I wish you laughter.
I wish you wonder-full initiations that help you grow into your authentic self.
Thank you for reading.
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