Are holidays okay for you?

My van by the side of a canal near Liverpool, UK

It’s probably a strange question, but are holidays okay for you? It’s on my mind because I’m actually on holiday this week but here I am writing to you. That’s partly because a friend cancelled our trip to North Wales and I’m pootling about in the North West of England by myself (which I love, by the way).

At first it didn’t feel okay, because it was a big change and there was, suddenly, this big empty array of days in front of me. But as I relax into it, I’m enjoying lazy mornings, going to discover places and take photos, and reading, lots of reading! What kinds of holidays do you like?

I’m reading about ADHD, which I resonate with a huge deal (I’ve been waiting for an assessment since September 2020). And I’ve been reflecting on my coaching clients who have ADHD. Most of them have had post-traumatic stress disorder too.  Both of these things are neurodiverse traits. The former is how the brain is wired and the latter can be healed.

Both types of neurodiversity need some kind of support. Often one goes hand in hand with the other. Afterall, this world is set up for neuro-‘normal’ people and any kind of discrimination tends to feel traumatic for the person being discriminated against. I’m sure I’m preaching to the choir with that statement! What do you think?

Anyway, with that in mind, I’d like to let you know that I offer therapeutic coaching for exactly this kind of thing – neurodiversity. Coaching can help to identify and overcome the things that paralyse you so that you can focus on the things you really want to do and have and be. 

I love supporting neurodiverse people in this way and there’s a testimonial from one of my clients on my website that you might like to read to give you an idea of what it might be like.

Another way of finding out what I’m like in supporting you is to try a sessionSingle sessions are £66 or if you book and pay for 3 in advance, it’s £165, which is a saving of £33 (just reach out and we can set that up for you).

Most people like to try 3 sessions and we can review it in the 3rd session so you can decide whether to go for another 3. 

If you’d like to have a chat about it, I’ll happily give you a free 30 minute consultation so we can ‘try each other on’ and see if we’re a good fit. Would you like that? If so, email me and we’ll set it up for you.

Love,

Julia xxx

Love Builds Weird and Wonderful Structures

The Black Hole, Watercolour pencils and chalk pastels on Legal Pad, A4

Once upon a time, in the absence of loving kindness, a black hole appeared. It was deep and dark and its edges were ringed with hurt. Its hunger knew no bounds and was constantly looking for satiation.

One night something hard, yet squidgy, filled it for a while and though it didn’t feel right, it was secret and special. More, it wanted more! And it ate the rage, the fear, the confusion, the shame, the desire. It gorged on hard, yet squidgy, until it could know nothing else. They were made for each other.

Suddenly, hard, yet squidgy, stopped visiting and a blanket of black covered the hole, lifting only to allow it to binge on other shameful things. The blanket was heavy and yet provided a kind of comfort, keeping the status quo.

Eventually a compassionate eye rested its gaze on the black hole, letting it know that it could, if it wanted to, tell its story. It did. And it began to understand its need to binge and that it could begin to feel, not eat, the confusing array of emotions.

As it felt its feelings, the heavy, black blanket disintegrated and the hole began to build structures of peace and fulfilment. What strange, beautiful structures they were. They curled and curved around and out, and developed a weird and wonderful life of their own.