Tag: self compassion
Lonely Teenage Part Discovered Whilst Painting Dots
Square Dots #1: sexism and dinero
Being With Trauma Memories Without Shame
How to Stop Beating Yourself Up and Feel Happier
I’m late writing this blog post because I had writer’s block. When I delved deeper into why I couldn’t begin writing I found a critical inner voice saying, “no point in writing because people will be like, ugh! Oh shut up!” I asked myself what it was protecting me from and I realised I didn’t want to feel disappointment that people might not read or comment on my blog post. Now I know this I can accept that fear: yes, maybe they will not read or comment, and I will have learnt a bit more by writing, and now I can write. My example highlights one of the purposes of self-criticism: to avoid potentially painful feelings. In this post I’ll share more about why we self-criticise, how self-criticism is linked to the fight/flight system, and how we can stop beating ourselves up and feel happier.
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Trauma is not the event(s) that happened to you, it’s how you are affected by those events.
Continue reading “How Trauma Gets in the Way of Your Goals and What You Can Do About It”Every noise, every touch, the stones beneath my feet, the splash of fountains from a window, crept evilly upon my senses. The air had a stinging weight like ocean waves. I felt myself a stranger to the world.
Circe by Madeline Miller
Can Vision Boarding Help Your Mental Health?
Clarity and Purpose With the Heart’s Desire Mandala
The Heart’s Desire Mandala is a one page worksheet with five simple steps that help you:
- gain clarity about your heart’s desire (purpose) and
- identify actions to get closer to your heart’s desire
What Did You Love About 2019?
Unlike New Year Resolutions, a year review can make you feel good about yourself and give you a stable base for what you’d like to have happen in the coming year. Resolutions can trigger your Inner Critic, especially if you don’t fulfil them, for whatever reason. Feeling crap about not doing your resolutions can spiral into negative self-talk about other areas of your life. You could end up feeling unmotivated or worse, depressed. So, here’s a way to feel great about 2019 and build a solid base for what you’d like for 2020!
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